Did you get rejected for the promotion that you knew was going to be yours? Maybe you didn’t get interviewed when less qualified people did? Or perhaps it was some small futile situation in the past that was held over your head. Pick your poison, there are tons of reasons. What you should consider is how your decisions led you to this point.
The desire is yours but the ultimate decision is not. There are other variables and factors that contribute to a promotion that you can control before the final say-so. That decision depends on your efforts to perform those responsibilities, your history of doing similar work, maintaining favorable perceptions, longevity, exposure, and more.
How it all started
Think about how this started. Somewhere in the past, you made the decision to apply for a new position. This is where you began to build your intention to manifest having a new job. Seeing yourself in a new light and possibly a different environment. Sometimes, all we need is that one moment of opportunity to let our efforts shine. But what happens when people put out conflicting intentions, like two people intending to get the same promotion when only one position is available?
Since you’re the only intender, this is entirely an internal conflict — within YOU. You are holding the thought (the intention) for both people to want the same position. But you’re also thinking (intending) that only one can get it. So you’re intending competition. This whole situation is your creation. You believe in competition, so that’s what you manifest. Maybe you have some beliefs (thoughts and intentions) about who will get the promotion, in which case your expectations will manifest. But you may have a higher order belief that life is random, unfair, uncertain, etc., so in that case, you may manifest a surprise because that’s what you’re intending.
Being the only intender in your reality places a huge responsibility on your shoulders. You can give up control of your reality by thinking (intending) randomness and uncertainty, but you can never give up responsibility. You’re the sole creator of this universe. If you think about war, poverty, disease, etc., that’s exactly what you’ll manifest. If you think about peace, love, and joy, you’ll manifest that too. Your reality is exactly what you think it is. Whenever you think about anything, you summon its manifestation.
Getting turned down
It’s unfortunate that you didn’t get the job you applied for. However, you don’t say it’s going to be okay without understanding what you could have done differently. If you dismiss everything in your experience simply because you didn’t get the job, then you’re starting from scratch and reinforcing your stuck-ness. You won’t be able to learn anything new.
It’s easier to learn from experiences that are dense. You may notice some small changes, but the biggest impact is going to be where your focus is. A job being your means to provide for yourself and others is a pretty critical area, especially if there is an opportunity to expand that.
There is no way to undo what has been done. If it’s in the past, you will have to make peace with it in your own way. Everyone is due their reaction point, but it’s up to you to consciously control how you deal with your new situation. You are not any less of a person than you were before you applied out. This is a learning experience. The more you are able to adapt to situations like this, the less power they will have over you.
Being adaptable is mandatory when learning from new experiences. Listen to yourself. Admitting weakness is the greatest strength. Knowing yourself well enough turns those potential weaknesses into opportunities. Rather than being upset with what you lack, you hold the key to improvement. Knowing what your weaknesses are, and what you can work on, puts you in a better position to learn from your experience and puts you one step closer to self-awareness.
Okay, now what?
Now, you act. You started this endeavor, and now you have to finish it. Cap off your experience and prove that you’ve learned from it – undefeated. This is the best way to launch yourself into action. A good way to start is with a humble approach. The rejection email is something that’s rarely seen after interviews have finished and an offer already accepted. This is a good way to make yourself memorable for future postings with that hiring manager.
It’s a distinctive move to send a kind gesture about the hiring manager’s input to pick whoever he/she thought was best to help develop their team. Something like this goes a long way and may eclipse what could have been holding you back. Who knows, that job you applied for may have been a toss up between you and another candidate. Sending a thoughtful email to thank the interviewer for their time during this process could present you with another opportunity, perhaps one better suited for your talents.
Asking for feedback is good. It lets the hiring manager know that you are still interested in those opportunities. You may also want to consider asking your direct manager for feedback, they can be a powerful marketing tool. Not only will your interest be refreshed in your boss’ mind, but they will also see your efforts to improve yourself. Improve your boss’ perspective of you, free advice on how to sustain that viewpoint, visible interest in your hierarchy, distinctive positive attitude, and having the courage to keep moving forward – that’s a win everybody’s eyes.